The past 4 days have been a cornucopia of inspiration. Just one amazing event and speaker after another. After a disappointing start to the year which included stomach flu, broken or un-started goals and habits and a general air of crazy disorganization, I am now pumped (and feeling better equipped) to move forward with my year in a more intentional way. Here’s a little peak at what I’ve been up to.
The weekend started on Thursday with a talk on brain health by none other than America’s Pediatrician Dr. Sears. 50 years of teaching parents and their little ones about health and wellness is no joke, this man knows his shit. I love how he can speak to both children and adults – at the same time- without making anyone feel like an idiot or that they need a medical degree to understand. So what do you and your loved ones need to stay healthy in body and mind?
- Fruits and veggies. Yep, they should be the basis of all your meals. Not getting enough? (9-10 servings per day is recommend, what?!?!?!) Supplement with a fruits and veggies in a capsule (<–this my friends is one of only 3 supplements he ever recommends. The other two being only strictly needed when pregnant: DHA and probiotics). Fruits and veggies are full of phytonutrients and antioxidants. Antioxidants equals less “sticky stuff” and “rust” as explained below.
- Healthy fats. Wild Alaskan Salmon, coconut, flax, olive and other cold pressed oils, avocado, nut and seed butters. Our brains are made up of fat, they need fat to run, ditch the hydrogenated and overly processes oils and grab the good stuff. Lubrication, helps us avoiding “rusting” or accumulating the sticky stuff.
- Get outside! Sunshine, fresh air, etc, etc “Dr. Mom” knew what’s up when she said go outside and play.
- Get moving. Exercises, exercise, exercise. Play, play, play!
- Practice these 4 healthy habits and your blood vessels won’t get stopped up with any “rust” or “sticky stuff”. That stuff, as Dr Sears explained, can coat our blood vessels closing off our natural “medicine bottles”. That’s right, our bodies can produce their own “medicines”. When treated right and running well we can produce “medicines” to lower the highs (blood pressure, blood sugar, etc) and raise the lows (depression, etc). Here’s a little video that goes over this in a bit more detail. http://crossroads360.com/article-dr-sears—keep-the-sticky-stuff-out-of-your-body/219510
Friday was the start of a two day business conference with inspirational and motivational speakers including a business talk from Dr. Sears and several other successful entrepreneurs. A few of my ah ha! movements included:
- Find your daily motivation: Holden and Neil are my motivations. I want all of us to be able to have freedom of time and place in our lives. No more office work for my man.
- The “Why” for any goal must be stronger, more important and more powerful than any of the fears that will hold you back from that goal.
- D.M.O: What’s your daily mode of operation. Daily steps to get what needs to be done. Create it, stick to it.
- ALL BARRIERS ARE SELF IMPOSED. Top 3 factors:
- Counter intentional behavior -“I think I’ll go check Facebook real quick before calling that potential client”- I am the worst about this. Procrastination is a form of perfectionism, if you never start, you will never fail.
- Self Defeating Beliefs- not confident enough, not enough knowledge to do something, not this, not that. These negative messages we tell ourselves, are only self fulfilling properties. What the brain hears, it will start to believe. Sending these messages to your brain only tells it you don’t want to succeed.
- Feeling Unworthy- not believing you are worthy of success, wealth, whatever.
- Our personalities are programed for survival not to excel. These thoughts and actions set limits on ourselves, we need to strive for more and know it’s possible.
- We participated in an activity related to this by identifying some of our self limiting beliefs. My biggest is a belief that I do not have enough time or organization to move forward in my business goals. I use this as a great excuse to never even get started! We created contracts releasing ourselves from these beliefs. Here is mine: I, Brittany Henderson, release myself from the belief that I need a lot of time or need to be very organized in order to get things done and be successful. From now on I will know that even 10 minutes of working toward my goals will be beneficial.
- Whatever stops you from succeeding in business is what is stopping you in life. This was an eye opener for me. When I thought about it, I tend to have the same self limiting behaviors when it comes to aspects of my own life. Feelings that I need more time and more organization in order to have a clean house, good meals, whatever. Instead, I plan to just do what I can, as I can, plan be damned!
- And my last little tidbit from the conference: “I could have been big, but I was too busy making excuses”. Where are you putting your energy? Is it into excuses? When will you change course and put your energy into your business, goal, life, etc?
My last event this weekend was The Family Reset. A monthly health and wellness event, with the goal of bringing families together to help create community connections, new friendships, promote health, learn, create and allow the whole family to reset and start the month off together. This event is put on by The Reset Project and was inspired by yours truly. I love their Sunday Reset, but Holden was getting to a point where it wasn’t appropriate to bring him anymore. I asked for an event where the whole family was welcome and now I’m helping to create it!
This month’s was my favorite Family Reset yet. It started off with a short workout and then cool down and grounding lead by Jessica Peralta of Fit4Mom Las Vegas. I was mildly embarrassed by how hard it was for me- more motivation to actually get moving this year! Her workout used songs and movements that were fun and encouraged the kids to join in as well!
After a little relaxed breathing the parents broke off from the kiddos to hear from parenting guru Heather Criswell of WiseInside. My wonderful husband stayed behind and played with the kiddos, such a good guy. This was a very shortened version of one of her normal talks, but I got so much out of those 30/40 minutes, I’m looking forward to hearing more from her at future resets but also ordering her book and poking around on her website some more. She spoke about compassion for ourselves, for our kiddos and for others. These are such good tidbits for living with kiddos! In short:
- Compassion for yourself: take care of yourself and your well being sometimes before anyone else’s! If you always care for your kiddos and/or spouse first you are sending the message to your child that we should put others needs before our own Remind yourself of your successes even when you’ve just had a failure. Use a gratitude type journal or a notebook to record your parenting success. Don’t forget or look past your own greatness and successes and start looking for outside validation. It will never be enough.
- Compassion for your kiddo:
- keep a couple times in your head where your kiddo was their best self. That time they were really sweet, shared well, said something nice, or created a beautiful picture- whatever, just a shining example of who they really are. When they aren’t being their best- maybe they are clobbering a kid at the playground- before dealing with situation first remind yourself of those best times, keep that kiddo in mind before approaching your little monster.
- when approaching your little “monster” instead of asking “what’s wrong”, ask “what do you need” or “how can I help?”. By asking what’s wrong you are focusing on the negative and reminding them that something is bad. By asking what they need or how you can help, you are helping them to look past the problem and seek the solution. I FREAKING LOVE THIS. Seriously, I will definitely work on asking how I can help Holden or what he needs, because even at 18 months, teaching him to be proactive is important.
- Compassion for others: we all make mistakes, nobody’s way is perfect. Accept how others choose to parent and if you feel there is a better way have compassion towards your fellow parents! Instead of berating them fro what they are doing wrong, lift them up with what they are doing right and offer tools for how to do better in those other areas. No needs to be berated for a parenting choice they made, speak kindly and offer help, tools and guidance.
- She gave each of us a copy of WiseTalk “A “tool” for parents and a “game” for children,WiseTalk® for Families builds a communication lifeline that allows you and your child to share your wisdom in ways that feel good.” It’s a little early for us to play with Holden, but I’m looking forward to having it in the next couple years.
If you live in the Las Vegas area and would like to attend a Family Reset, look for more information by liking The Reset Project on Facebook where they post upcoming events!
Last night I was jazzed to get my shit together to say the least! I filled in my calendar, brainstormed a little and got myself marginally organized. It’s not perfect, but I got started and I’m ready to move forward with some of those resolutions/goals/habits that I identified, here, I wanted to work on this year.
Anything putting a little spring in your step or a nudge in the right direction this week? Tell me about it!